A notion that the woman is 'used'.
Long story short: people like to think that "there was a reason behind the divorce"
Which creates a bad mentality towards divorced people
frivolous reasons are still good enough reasons .both men and women have been known to divorce because their partner wasnt good looking enough,or they fell out of "love".
would you deny them the freedom to choose their own partner?
I think you're forgetting the crux of this discussion: these reasons add a stigma, no matter how frivolous they may be. Should it be assumed to be your fault if your partner fell out of love because they met someone new?
In addition to the 'used' notion, the assumption that the woman is not good at maintaining a relationship and hence likely to divorce again.
Doesn't the same apply to men also though maybe to a lesser extent? My uncle was divorced and he would only get rishtas from other divorced women. Which sounds fair to me.
It applies to men too, but to a lesser extent. Men, even when divorced, are 'users' in the eyes of the patriarchy while women are the 'used'.
I somewhat disagree. A divorced man enjoys the privilege of being a male only if he is rich imo. A poor, divorced man has no gender-based advantage in the marriage market.
People who have come out of relationships come with baggage. Emotional baggage is just one thing. But in the case of divorce with children, the other parent may have visitation rights.
Its not particularly fair, people should marry whomever they want to
Divorced women are looked down upon as she might have done something wrong. Also, a lot of men look for a 'fresh' alternative as opposed to 'used'.
For divorced men, they have to face questions of impotency and alimony.
All this 'used' bullshit aside,guys are petrified of the prospect of raising their own kids you think they'll invest in someone else's?
Divorced women: yes.
Divorced woman with kids: No, not ready to take such high responsibility, I can't look after myself, forget about kids.
Best indicator of future behaviour is past behavior.
I guess that would depend on the cause of the divorce.
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one of the justifications that I have heard is why should you invest in raising children who have no genetic relation to you,
You would, but what about a rich good looking divorcee even?
The thing is she has to trade down now, the best of guys won't even consider her.
This is misleading; it's not specific to women (in India, at least) - it's just as "frowned upon" to marry a man who has been divorced and has kids.